BE SINGLE and FREE…

It’s hard for most of us who are still 100% single , 75% single while others are only in a struggling relationship looking forward to the day their Messiah would come. It’s even more hard living in an environment where love is in the air, we see lovers parade themselves like love birds mostly at night, and during the day, we get to see a lot of love movies in form of marriage proposal . But before we quarrel our Chi for keeping us single in this love filled era, before we curse our ancestors for being behind our singleness, before we soak our pillows with emotional tears, before we quarrel the weather for being so unfair to those yet to find love, can we just learn to enjoy our single period like those enjoying their relationship period?

It maybe hard to believe any lady would be single especially when she has developed all the physical lady’s features. Like a post I read yesterday which denied the fact that any girl can be single, I just laughed over it. Truth is this, there are a lot of single guys and girls ,there are a lot of them wishing to be romantically involved with someone, there are also those who enjoys being single because they don’t have strength  for emotional wahala. Many people wishes to know your relationship status especially when you’re a beautiful lady or handsome guy. People would always want to know who is the guy/lady in your life not because they want to congratulate him/her rather they want see if (s)he meets up with their expected image. Relationship ain’t for public approval they are for your self comfort and peace of mind. So if for the fear of being single one gets himself into a wrong relationship the rest of it would be philosophy of love. Singleness shouldn’t drive you into doing/wishing  stupid things. It doesn’t give you license to start going out with someone’s husband. It’s not an excuse to engage in snatching people’s date when there are over a thousand and one singles out there seeking for you. 

Being single offers you an opportunity to be emotionally, psychologically and financially free. It gives you the chance and freedom to exert your energy into other profitable things which ordinary you might not have been able to do when you’re relationship bond. Singleness is a period you arrange your priority without external interference , your heart and mind works in harmony, your brain does the thinking faster than a cheetah can run, you have time to discover what you can do to keep soul and body together. Being single is a status we all should be proud of not the reverse, it doesn’t mean love left us behind nor does it mean we weren’t good enough to be in one, it simply means our time is yet to arrive. To the sisters, forget that picture of a skeletal woman with the caption “waiting for the perfect  man”, nobody should make you feel bad simply because you’re single. As a lady, a lot of relationship offers often pill up on our desk but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t  exercise our freewill  to chose, it shouldn’t make us desperate into accepting anything that comes our way, we have taste which we can only try to blend not abandon for something lesser. Next time someone tries to make mockery of your single status be BOLD enough to laugh at them. Nobody ever gets the best of a choice when (s)he choses out of desperateness. To the guys, as you grow older, you’ll understand the need to be in a relationship with a lady who would help you think and act faster in regards to achieving your set goals. You’ll appreciate the fact that it is better to be single than lavishing your time and money on someone else’s property. To all, use your past relationship experience so as to avoid mistakes for the second time. Life expects you to grow and when growing there are hidden facts you get to discover that you can’t negotiate. Being in a relationship is a good thing  only if we are with the right person.

Happy New Month from my desk. 

Self Inspired Lady,

Grace